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Monday, June 2, 2008

Jealousy is such an uncontrolled emotion , Isn't it?

Jealousy i ssuch an uncontrolled emotion , Isn't it?
I for most part don't really get gripped by jealousy coz i tend to admire someone else's achievements with a healthy spirit that gets me inspired to do better .Morever the things i cherish and respect are things worth respecting.I am not really into a certain kind of face and nose.I am more into intelligence, originality and goodwill.
But, there are those very rare times , when i have suddenly caught myself get a teenie weenie bit jealous too.Just a lil while ago, i saw a picture of a man whom i have never met in person.I kinda like him(i rarely end up liking people without meeting them in person and i rarely like people unless they have taken my third degree vindication !).So yeah, i saw a picture of him with his apparently new found love.This new found love of his, seems like a very normal person.Nothing spectacular and not someone that meets my Special Intelligent person standard.My heart sank for a bit.Was is jealousy ? Or was it disappoitment that this man that i like a bit more than usual, selects such an ordinary person to be with? I have no idea.Really .I mean, Maybe if he had been with someone special and spectacular and more intelligent and some whom i would find appealing myself, I perhaps would not have experienced that sinking feeling i felt in my heart(which i suppose was a jealousy of some kind?) hmmm...Never mind.

For most part, on an average, i don't get jealous because i am kinda proud of who i am .I would think that jealousy stems from insecurity and an insecurity where a person feels that they cannot do anything to correct and set right that factor that causes them to feel insecure.Hmmmm.
I have seenNot-so-good looking people get jealous of others who look good coz for most part, they look at it as something they cannot correct about themselves. and sometimes i have seen people taking this jealousy overboard and actually trying horrible methods like body modification to make themselves look better.
My question is, plastic surgery might modify your external looks, but will it ever get rid of the insecurity and the ensuing jealousy inside your head?
The insecurity that is inherent will never go away till you do away with your own silly and stupid definitions of good and great and nice .
I would highly suggest that people dwell on each of us being unique rather than each of us meeting up to a set standard of what is great..why? well,, the person that decides that they are not ideal looking, does so out of some of self disapproval and some inner insecurity about their looks.They get plastic surgery done , they might even end up looking exactly like what they wanted to look like.Yet, the very fact, they need to undergo surgery to look that perfect, constanly stays in their mind and constantly makes them feel even bad that they were never "idea"l looking in the first place.Inside of their head, each time , after surgery, anyone compliments them on their looks, It is like a subconscious slap on their face , almost something that sounds like , "Hey , you are actually bad looking,Look, you needed surgery to look good, You were never really good looking in the first place!"
The solution?People need to respect themselves first, respect their own selves enough to not be shallow enough to respect beauty beyond even their self respect and respect for personality, to go get surgery.They need to feel proud and adequate about themselves without makeup, without all those extra add ons.That is true healing.

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