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Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Am I too old to date Shia le beouf?world summit and korea!

Okay first off I hope i got the spelling right .
The question for today is not if the policemen who shoved a man at the world summit who then later died should be held accountable or not.

The question also doesn't seem to be if North Korea's reply to the UN almost sounded like a dangerous threat-Is North Korea serious talking that way? Huh? That Korean guy is talking about sovereignty and crap, but does he not understand the concept of Nuclear Non proliferation treaty and defaulting. He was talking like a self righteous***** . Anyways the question for today is not even that .

The question is , "Am I too old to date Shia Le Boeuf?"(is that how it is spelled?)
Here is the deal, I am exactly 30 yrs old, But yes, I look like I am 16 or 14 (which is kinda sad when people start talking down to me and calling me sweetie and what not ) .I am attractive looking too (As pointed out by many a stalker,much to my chargrin that I underdress even to this day,too much of attention gives me jitters , LOL) .
Now, I had to look up Shia's date of birth and looks like he is around 22 right now. That makes me theoretically 8 years younger than me. I do physically look younger than him though( shall we credit my wonderful youthful genes or my vegan diet?) . Anyways,So , given the situation; am I too old to date Shia le .......(what a difficult spelling)

My answer?
I think I am too old indeed. Why?
You see , I find him very attractive.Come on , it is commonly agreed that this kid (note that i use the word Kid) is good looking and all. But then, When I look at it this way that when I was 20, he prolly must have been 12, It kinda would make me a p***phile (don't want to really use the word here and all for no real reason) had i hit on a 12 year old kid while i was myself 20... I guess, of course ,now that he is 22 and I am 30, It may not look that bad . But then, It is actually still exactly the same.
You know, we never would have common cultural reference points to talk about . We are two different generations. When I was 12 , there were no cellphones, but when he was 12, cellphones were all over the place. So , given the time at which each one of us was a teen, our upbringing and cultural reference points automatically would be very very different. Whether we admit it or not, we are what we read or see or hear especially during our teen years. Also, imagine this, I must have watched a particular movie during my teen years and it must have left an impression on my psyche while the poor kid must not have even watched it coz it was PG or some such.
Dating is not just about mindless sex and such, right? Relationships will evolve to points where conversations need to happen and yes, great conversations sure can happen between a 22 yr old and a 30 yr old but only when as friends or as mentor and mentee , rather than as individuals who are dating. It is always better for people of the same age group to date. That way they can have common cultural reference points to cherish about together and they can discuss that particular hair fashion that was so in vogue when they were both teens and such. Ya know.
Like for eg, when i was in my early teens , shoulder pads for dresses were so in and now when i look at those pictures I find those dresses stupid. I have perfectly nice shoulders why add a bunchy shoulder pad there . But If I wanted to discuss shoulder pads with Shia, he won't perhaps really get it, though ofcourse he might listen to what i have to say. It is always better to be with people who will literally get the joke, coz they themselves wore shoulder pads back when they were in their teens too . Ya know.
Also, I start looking at it this way as well. When I was 22, if a 30 yr old man would try to date me(A creepy guy aka the senior resident asked me out for coffee and I actually had to tell him that I don't drink coffee ! ) , no matter how young he looked, It would creep me out . It just doesn't feel right to me .It never felt right to me as a 22 yr old .
As the younger person , you are being violated by the older person( I know that there is no need to get melodramatic about it all, but I had to ). Yes, people of different age groups can surely like and admire each other and can be friends too , but then the inability on the older person's part to let the lust go and treat the younger person with plain protective dignity kinda comes across as very creepy to me. If you, as a man of 65 yrs ( I won't take names ) cannot start being the older mentor to a younger woman and still want to view her with a sexual point of view, you are not really nice.People need to age gracefully and getting married to someone old enough to be your daughter is kinda indicative ageing not so gracefully. Where is the grace? It is also very selfish coz you know what, you are only thinking about you and your needs, you for one forget that the younger person will prolly be more happy with someone younger .
Anyways,I have noticed many old men that i come across in my own life, who kinda drool at me . As a 30 yr old I would rather that these 65 yr old men become my godfathers or father figures, rather than try and get into my pants.Is there no limit for greed? There are boundaries that better stay. If as a 65 yr old you still want to be the jock, it is a shameful thing. You need to at one point get out of it and start being this protective older person to younger people rather than still viweing them as sex objects. Ya know ! Also please remember that if a younger woman actually wants to willingly date you It is only due to some kind of innner insecurity where she feels that she deserves no better or she feels she can't do any better and that by itself is a stepping stone for a dysfuntional relationship later.
So yeah, If I as a 30 yr old can find these 65 yr old men creepy, I must then try real hard not to turn into this creepy person myself. What must I do ? No matter how tempting it appears, I just stay away from 22 yr olds. Which I do , btw. The thing is, since i look like I am 14, I have been asked out by 14 yr old boys at grocery stores and whoa that is a whole other story. Prolly these kids take one look at me and then think that I am their age or some such. whatever.
Infact , I think that an age difference of more than 5 years really is a demarcation point for the start of another generation. Just let them be. But then yes if not a meagre five years or age difference, Atleast make sure that you are not old enough to be their father or mother? How do you do that ? well, a girl attains puberty at 12, so she better not date anyone 10 or 12 yrs younger than her coz she is old enough to be his mother.
Males attain puberty around 14, so they better make sure that they never date or have sex with anyone more than 12-14 yrs younger. Self regulation is a great Idea.
So, yes, for now, Though Shia is a great looking guy, very sexy and what not, Though I am very young looking inspite of being 30, At the end of the day , The truth is that I am 30, And therefore he is a kid to me and i better look for some 30 yr old hot guys my own age so that we both can sit by the window in the late afternoons and joke about how all of us looked quite ridiculous in those shoulder padded shirts in OUR early teens. LOL
Having said all this, sometimes somethings can get really really out of control and in such situations all rules fly out of the window.though I talk about rules, I can still be open minded to understand special circumstances . No, I am not talking about Shia and Me. I am just letting you guys know that under very rare circumstances rules can be broken . enough of rambling though. Geez, poor Shia gets dragged into a blog entry for no reason. I have never ever even met him in real life.
p.s: Disclaimer is that I have no undue fixation with shoulder pads or Shia. Just had to use those topics as examples.

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