The relative truth and prejudices !

We all have our own relative truth.Something is acceptable or unacceptable depending on where we are in life and what our beliefs are .Our beliefs inturn are then governed by our innate capacities, our capabilities and our self confidence.
Also, beliefs are largely governed by one's knowledge on things.
The less you know, the more likely you are bound to have an illinformed belief which translates into an uncalled for prejudice.
If you never expose yourself to the two sides of a story and never really go there and open yourself to more and more ,you end up with a telescopic view of things and the pity of the matter is , you don't even know that you are an ignorant idiot.
You are in your own small lil world with not that much exposure that you don't know any better to find out that you are lacking so much in terms of knowledge, the knowledge to be capable of making an informed decision or the knowledge to know that you don't have enough knowledge to make a valid judgement.
So, it is always a good idea to push one's limits and try and open yourself to hear to more sides of the story without coming to quick conclusions.
And when i say knowledge I don't mean the gossip.It is sad how people rely and trust gossip or here say as a source of accumulating one's knowlege base..It is like, you say a falsehood to more people, it is most likely to take the place of truth..pop culture as they call it.Pop culture popular culture , essentially may not be an accurate or a well informed practise..it is just what everyone does without thinking coz everyone else is doing it.
It would sometimes be a good idea to have the courage to not conform and use the RIGHT KNOWLEDGE GATHERING RESOURCES and counter check the information in your own logical way where you can ask yourself and logically calculate to see if the info being given has the propensity to be true and then accept it and store it in your brain's database.Use your own logic to do this.Don't just accept news just coz someone you know said it.More likely than not, they are just repeating to you what someone else said to them.Anyways, it is a good idea to , get up and question something that doesn't appeal to you even if no one else seems to be questioning the fact.
A not so well reasearched piece of news can give rise to narrow minded knowledge about things which will largely translate as prejudice.Ya know !

About borrowing the positive energy

I know there is this theory going around, thanks to movies and psychology books, About how sometimes people borrow the positive energy from someone else and take it back home to their relationships ,and this positive energy is what they use to thrive their romantic relationship.
Examples would be of Men who are so turned on by their beautiful secretary..they take all the boost this lady gives to them by her presence around them at work and then are so happy due to that that they are rejuvenated in some strange way to actually give it to their wives at home and revive their marriage.I am not sure that such a scenario is healthy at all.It is not fair on this person from whom you are sucking out the positivity .
Sometimes women and men, both, spend hours talking and discussing things with "friends" of the opposite sex and then the positivity that comes out of such interaction,they take it back and thus make their romantic relationship lively.
I think that such a transfer of positivity is kinda ethically wrong..Because , well, i think that you are taking it from someone and don't give it back to them ..infact you take it from them and use them in some way to actually better your relationship with someone else.It would perhaps be right to give back the positivity to the same person you are taking something from..thus it would be a healthy give and take.I mean,if you need a third person to make you alive and rejuvenated, you might want to rethink this relationship with your official partner ...Maybe it is not great afterall.
I don't know.If i make someone happy and alive again and make them think and feel again, i would rather that they have the relationship with me and make me their official partner.I would really be annoyed if they take it all from me and go running to purge out that positivity on some other relationship.But, well, in which case, i think i would deliberately withhold exuding the positivity to this positivity stealer.They better fend for themselves and make their own lame ass relationships work all on their own.LOL .Sometimes these positivity stealers don't even know that someone else's positivity is what is making their lacklustre official relationships work.It is only when this third person deliberately withdraws generously doling out the positivity that the truth comes out.
Seriously.This is food for thought.If you feel that you are giving too much to a person who is not giving anything back and might perhaps just be using you for that positivity boost(they might be doing this subconsciously ofcourse,they might not even be aware that their other 'real' relationships heavily relies on the positivity transfer from this 'friendship' with this 'friend'), just stop giving them that positivity boost.Afterall, everyone deserves the reciprocation of positivity boost when they are doling it out.
hmmmmmmm....
this just made me think.Selfishness and calculativiness is a virtue for selfwelfare purposes.
Message to myself for today would be:
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN NEEDS FIRST.IF YOU DOLE OUT POSITIVITY , YOU BETTER GET SOME RIGHT BACK.THERE ARE GOING TO BE NO FREEBIES.BECAUSE, SOMETIMES, NO MATTER HOW VALUABLE FREEBIES ARE SOMETIMES, THE VERY FACT THAT THEY ARE FREEBIES MAKES THEM BECOME UNDERVALUED GOODS SOMETIMES.

Jealousy is such an uncontrolled emotion , Isn't it?

Jealousy i ssuch an uncontrolled emotion , Isn't it?
I for most part don't really get gripped by jealousy coz i tend to admire someone else's achievements with a healthy spirit that gets me inspired to do better .Morever the things i cherish and respect are things worth respecting.I am not really into a certain kind of face and nose.I am more into intelligence, originality and goodwill.
But, there are those very rare times , when i have suddenly caught myself get a teenie weenie bit jealous too.Just a lil while ago, i saw a picture of a man whom i have never met in person.I kinda like him(i rarely end up liking people without meeting them in person and i rarely like people unless they have taken my third degree vindication !).So yeah, i saw a picture of him with his apparently new found love.This new found love of his, seems like a very normal person.Nothing spectacular and not someone that meets my Special Intelligent person standard.My heart sank for a bit.Was is jealousy ? Or was it disappoitment that this man that i like a bit more than usual, selects such an ordinary person to be with? I have no idea.Really .I mean, Maybe if he had been with someone special and spectacular and more intelligent and some whom i would find appealing myself, I perhaps would not have experienced that sinking feeling i felt in my heart(which i suppose was a jealousy of some kind?) hmmm...Never mind.

For most part, on an average, i don't get jealous because i am kinda proud of who i am .I would think that jealousy stems from insecurity and an insecurity where a person feels that they cannot do anything to correct and set right that factor that causes them to feel insecure.Hmmmm.
I have seenNot-so-good looking people get jealous of others who look good coz for most part, they look at it as something they cannot correct about themselves. and sometimes i have seen people taking this jealousy overboard and actually trying horrible methods like body modification to make themselves look better.
My question is, plastic surgery might modify your external looks, but will it ever get rid of the insecurity and the ensuing jealousy inside your head?
I BET ,NO !
The insecurity that is inherent will never go away till you do away with your own silly and stupid definitions of good and great and nice .
I would highly suggest that people dwell on each of us being unique rather than each of us meeting up to a set standard of what is great..why? well,, the person that decides that they are not ideal looking, does so out of some of self disapproval and some inner insecurity about their looks.They get plastic surgery done , they might even end up looking exactly like what they wanted to look like.Yet, the very fact, they need to undergo surgery to look that perfect, constanly stays in their mind and constantly makes them feel even bad that they were never "idea"l looking in the first place.Inside of their head, each time , after surgery, anyone compliments them on their looks, It is like a subconscious slap on their face , almost something that sounds like , "Hey , you are actually bad looking,Look, you needed surgery to look good, You were never really good looking in the first place!"
The solution?People need to respect themselves first, respect their own selves enough to not be shallow enough to respect beauty beyond even their self respect and respect for personality, to go get surgery.They need to feel proud and adequate about themselves without makeup, without all those extra add ons.That is true healing.

How long does it take to understand someone?

How long does it take to truly understand that you have understood what needs to be understood to truly understand another person?
A year?
A lifetime?
Is it possible ever?